October 01, 2006
Relationship Management/Break-up QueenGiving relationship advice. Something I’ve been doing since I was 8. I don’t know how and why, I’m involved into directing ppl about what they should do to help move on, get over with, get into, live with, their relationships.
This month I was aware of roughly 3-4 break ups that took place among my friends. I’ve realized, it’s usually break ups I end up being involved in. I’m usually helping friends move on, have, get over, stop – ‘break ups’. People I barely know or some that I Do know well but don’t generally discuss personal matters with me, want to speak to me or open up to me about their relationships. And surprisingly, I’ve been of help. I once had a friend save up an entire chat conversation to read for future.
Seriously, a while ago, I was watching this show on channel [V] called The 10. This show is about the 10 best..whatever the theme of the week is. On that particular day, they played, ‘The 10 best break-up songs’. I had like 8 songs out of 10 of them on my favourites. This reaaally got me thinking..sheesh really.. is that my fav genre in music as well? ‘break up’. I browsed through my mp3 player. Yep, more break up songs in English, Hindi and Iranian.
Somehow people think Harsha is the best person to speak to when you have issues with your partner, male and female alike. Really.. and how many relationships do you think she’s been in.. close to none. Pretty much cuz she’s spent the last 12 years of her life listening to people in them. The good stuff, the bad stuff, the boring stuff, the annoying stuff, stuff that shes not supposed to know, everything. Everyone seems to have a unique problem. Or so they think.
The underlying thing I’ve figured in all of this is that…now.. everyone wants to stand up for themselves, live life the way they want to. This is really good, why should someone suppress their desires for someone else. Even If its for someone you lurve. Cuz obviously if you change yourself for someone- you’re not the same person anymore right?
Fact is, if nobody wants to compromise on how they’d wanted their life to be.. how are you going to adjust to another’s life? And expect to live ‘happily ever after’
As much as I’m saying it here.. and I know its easier said than done, and for all the relationship stories I’ve been a part of.. I’m probably going to have similar issues one day. I wont have anyone to speak to about it cuz I don’t share as much as I see others easily opening up and I’d doubt theres anyone as talented as me to talk me out of my problems :op….and ofcourse.. as modest as I am.
(no no my friends aren’t useless, they actually tolerate my tantrums when I’m low)
But all of this has surely helped me learn a lot, cuz that’s one thing I do best.. learn from others mistakes/experiences.
P.S all of this has been running in my head for a while but.. I’ve kind of lost interest in writing posts.. I do read blogs regularly and comment on them.. and discover new blogs.. but I think this ones not going to have frequent posts.
This post was triggered by a comment I made here.
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